Anxious people are likely to be somewhat reserved and secretive due to their fear of judgment and embarrassment. Often they'll keep their most "human" thoughts or experiences hidden if they have the slightest inkling that it might be viewed as abnormal or criticized by others. While this is more a result of anxiety rather than a cause, such tendencies create a barrier to connection in healthy relationships. There may be some thoughts that we choose as our own, but in most cases a balance is going to lie more on the side of openness. This is also a good example of a habitual behavior that may inspire anxious thoughts where none existed otherwise. Be aware of your own social anxiety behaviors and make an attempt to reverse them. It may help to create affirmations like we have here. Repeat the following thoughts out loud or in your mind.
• I share my thoughts, my feelings, and my life with others.
• I state my opinion and tell others what I think without fear of judgment.
• I am not afraid of people knowing who I am. I want people to know who
I am.
• I live an open life without any fear of exposure separating me from
others.
• I am not afraid of people knowing who I am. I have no need for secrets.
• I realize that sharing my life with others can make me more human and
build bonds
• Sometimes showing my imperfection can make me more genuine to others.
• I never act embarrassed or try to hide what I do. It's ok to make mistakes.
• I connect with others by being myself, real and genuine, free of social
anxiety.
• I do not need to act funny, phony, nice, social, or happy if I don't
feel like it.
• I do not try to be someone I'm not.
• Lying to others is lying to myself. I am now a straightforward person.
• I know dishonesty is recognized. I am brutally sincere, honest, and
trustworthy.
• I have good communication judgment, and realize there are some things
that are better left unsaid.
• I use tact and withhold my words when appropriate.
